The 2010 Preggies! Awards Are Here. No Designer Dress Required

The 2010 Preggies! Awards Are Here. No Designer Dress Required

byKimberly Allers

Posted 03/09/10 6:00 am EST | Pregnancy

TopicsPregnancy movies, pregnancy perks

It’s awards season. 

A few nights ago, Hollywood's best and brightest were dolled up and decked out to receive the highest honors in filmmaking. So, I was thinking, you deserves an award more than pregnant women—the ones who are repopulating the earth, ushering in new life and doing the thing that only womankind can do. What deserves more recognition than the 40 weeks of pregnancy. If that is not deserving of a golden statuette than I don’t know what is.

 

Unfortunately, I don’t have one of those.

 

What I do have is my first annual Preggies! Awards. My way, of honoring the best and even better of pregnancy. No designer dress required. 

 

 

The 2010 Preggies! Award


In the category of: Best Pregnancy Perk

The Preggie goes to: Bigger breasts and great cleavage

 

In the category of: Worst Pregnancy Side Effect

The Preggie! goes to:  Uncontrolled flatulence (for its badly timed repeat performances)  

 

In the category of: The Thing About Pregnancy Your Girlfriends Will Never Tell You

The Preggie! goes to: Labor and delivery really does hurt.

 

In the category of: Biggest Pregnancy Myth (by a male)

The Preggie! goes to: “I’m afraid my penis will hit the baby if we have sex.”

 

In the category of: Biggest Pregnancy Myth (by a female)

The Preggie! goes to:  “I’ll be back in my skinny jeans in two weeks.”

 

In the category of:  Things You Can Only Do During Pregnancy

The Preggie! goes to:  Eat ice cream straight off the scooper at midnight and then insist that the hubs go and get some more. And he does!  

 

In the category of: Most Often Craved Pregnancy Food Type

The Preggie! goes to: Mexican

 

In the category of: Best Performance in a Pregnancy Movie

The Preggie! goes to: Tiny Fey and Amy Poehler in Baby Mama

 


Your Morning Sickness Survival Guide: 13 Tips to Ease the Symptoms

Your Morning Sickness Survival Guide: 13 Tips to Ease the Symptoms

byKimberly Allers

Posted 03/02/10 6:00 am EST | Pregnancy

Topicsmorning sickness causes, morning sickness help, tips to alleviate morning sickness

 

Morning sickness is the standard by which all pregnancy experiences get measured. If a woman complains of a difficult or miserable pregnancy, she likely had severe morning sickness. If a woman brags of 40 weeks of sheer pregnancy glow and radiance, she probably didn’t spend much of her first trimester poised over a toilet.

 

Morning sickness is usually most unfortunate and untimely, because it happens in the early days of pregnancy before you want to tell your boss or chatty relatives. And trust me, running for the toilet every ten minutes is a big fat giveaway.

 

Thankfully there are some good tips to survive morning sickness. But I must say that trial and error will likely be the name of the game here. But first, let’s clear up a few myths. For one, morning sickness is a huge misnomer because it can often lasts all day and/or all night long and can strike at any time.

 

Second, morning sickness doesn’t afflict all women. Personally, I never had a touch of it. Studies show that only half of all expectant women get it. But when they do, you will definitely hear about it.

 

What it is: Morning sickness can run the gamut from occasional lightheadedness and dizzy spells, to full-fledged vomiting and nausea several times a day.  The good news is, even the most severe bouts of morning sickness usually passes after the third month.

 

What’s behind it: Nobody knows. There have been a lot of studies on the root cause of morning sickness with no definitive answers. Doctors do know that the brain stem is the center of all the nausea and vomiting activity. But there are a number of theories about what causes this area to be overstimulated during pregnancy. Some likely suspects include the high levels of hormones, the rapid stretching of the uterine muscles, a less efficient digestive system, the excess acid in the stomach and a heightened sense of smell. But I think it’s all part of a higher plan to make sure you have a great story to tell to your kids when they misbehave years later. The one thing they do know for sure is that stress and fatigue can make morning sickness worse.

 

Unfortunately there is no one-size fits all cure for morning sickness. But here are some tips, tricks and products that may help:

 

* Eat something high in protein before going to bed. Helps your blood sugar stay more level.

* Two crackers before your head leaves the pillow is old but wise advice.

* Try Preggie Pops, which have been known to help with queasiness and come in ginger, mint, sour fruits and lavender flavors.

 

 

* Have sips of ice water as the urge to purge strikes. Many women say that this helps them keep meals down as well.

* Flat Sprite has been touted as great at keeping the stomach from churning.

* Avoid foods and smells that seem to trigger nausea. Sometimes this will be nearly every food or every smell. But do your best.

* Ginger teas and cookies, even the spice can be helpful in preventing nausea.

* Acupressure bands can be worn like bracelets and can curb nausea while you wear them. Check out my fashion forward favorites, psibands (pronounced sigh bands). The bands, created by two moms, are adjustable, drug-free, waterproof and very cute.

 

* Try smaller frequent meals instead of a big feast. 

* Peppermint, either smelling it in aromatherapy form or sipping the tea can help curb nausea. It's also known to help with sagging energy levels.

* Try peanut butter or other protein snack before rising from your bed.

* A teaspoon of cider vinegar in a cup of warm water.

* When possible avoid hunger, it can also make your stomach upset.

 


The 2010 Clean Start Challenge: Finding Your Way, Making Your Space

The 2010 Clean Start Challenge: Finding Your Way, Making Your Space

byKimberly Allers

Posted 02/25/10 7:57 am EST | Pregnancy

Every mom needs a place of her own. When everyone demands so much of you, and you give so much of yourself to your family, you need a place to recharge your batteries.  That can be a time to walk,  a place to meditate, escaping via the TV, a relaxing bath or just closing your eyes with your favorite cup of tea.

 

My new mom buddy, Crystal Tewes is learning this first hand as she takes the 2010 Clean Start Challenge. As a first time mom to a six- month old baby girl, Crystal is finding it hard to juggle the many demands of motherhood while finding time to exercise and learning to become domestic diva in the kitchen.  Check out her latest video blog  and don’t forget to vote for a chance to win $1,000.

 

When I met Crystal, I shared with her a few words of comfort and advice. First off, she is not alone. Every first time mom experiences the how-will-I-do-it-all anxiety of taking care of house, hubby and a fresh-from-the-hospital bundle of joy.

 

Take heart, Crystal. Somehow millions of moms before you have found a way, stumbled along, found their stride, or faked it until they made it. My best advice here is to set a low bar. Truth is, you probably won’t be as productive as you used to be. Accept it. Embrace it. You have a beautiful little one who demands a lot of your time and energy. Do things in small doses. You may have to start making dinner right after breakfast, just to pace yourself to get it done by the evening. And, oh yeah, two very important words that are the best friends to any new mom---Crock. Pot. Throwing some meat and veggies into the crock pot in the morning and letting it cook all day, is an easy way to have a great meal without a lot of pot minding and prep time.  Check out these faves at allrecipes.com and bettycrocker.com

 

Also, try cooking a large meal on the weekends or whenever your partner is home to give you a hand with the baby. And when you do cook, think repurposing (Sounds more efficient than leftovers!). Let's say I make a big pot of meat sauce on a Sunday night, and serve it with some capellini. On Monday, the leftover sauce is mixed with some ziti and mozzarella, and popped into the oven for a yummy baked ziti. Or by the third night, I add a few cans of kidney beans, chili powder and other seasonings for a lovely chili over rice. That means I’m not cooking fresh again until Wednesday. Hello crock pot.

 

As for shedding the baby fat, I always tell moms, it took you nine months to gain the weight, so don’t let these celebrities convince you that you need to be thin again in nine days. Give yourself time. Again, start small. Taking the baby out for a 15-20 minute walk everyday is great for mom and baby.   

 

Along the way, create your own place to recoup, renew and renergize. Use candles, pictures of relaxing places or surround yourself with reminders of your accomplishments (especially on those days when you feel like you are missing the mommy mark).

 

At the end of the day, the best advice I could give Crystal, and all moms, is that slowly and surely, you WILL find your way.


MyLifetime.com Clean Start Challenge

MyLifetime.com Clean Start Challenge

byKimberly Allers

Posted 02/17/10 1:20 pm EST | Pregnancy

I love clean starts. As a recent divorcee and a woman who left a successful career to launch my own business, I know a thing or two about starting over, reinventing yourself and going after the life you want for yourself. That's why I'm so excited to be a part of the myLifetime.com Clean Start Challenge 2010.

Four fabulous finalists are on a mission to make a "clean start" in their lives and are competing in monthly challenges now until May for a chance to win $10,000. To help them on their journey, the finalists have been teamed up with a Lifetime Mom "buddy" to guide, inspire and motivate them on the way. It's all very exciting!

I've been chosen to help finalist Crystal Tewes, who wants to lose her baby weight and become a good cook so she can prepare nutritious and delicious meals for her family. Crystal has been somehow able to elude the cooking trap thus far and even married a man who took care of all the meals (you go girl!!) but now that she's at home taking care of her new baby girl, she has to step up her cooking game quick, get a handle on managing the household chores and find time to exercise. Good news Crystal, thousands of moms have been where you are right now. Including moi. Minus the killer cooking hubby. (Mine was British and prone to beans and toast!) But I can't wait to meet Crystal, learn more about her clean start goals and start sharing some tips that helped me when I was in her shoes. Check out Crystal's video and her Clean Start community group -- and don't forget to vote every day. When you vote, you are entered to win $1,000. Not a bad deal at all.


LMN Original Movie Review: "Sins of the Mother" Airing February 21 at 8pm et/pt

LMN Original Movie Review: "Sins of the Mother" Airing February 21 at 8pm et/pt

byKimberly Allers

Posted 02/17/10 12:21 pm EST | Pregnancy

Topicsforgiveness, Jill Scott, Lifetime Movies, mother and daughter relationships, Sins of My Mother

Motherhood is a complicated thing. If this is your first pregnancy, you’ll quickly learn this. If you’re already a mom, then I’m preaching to the choir. One little piece of advice: you’ll have a lot less drama in your pregnancy and journey in motherhood if you just learn to accept the things you can’t change. Easier said than done, I know. But this is what came to mind for me when I watched "Sins of the Mother," a new Lifetime Movie Network original movie featuring one of my favorites, actress and singer Jill Scott that will air on Sunday, February 21 at 8 pm et/pt.

Based on Carleen Brice’s novel, "Orange Mint and Honey," the film follows Scott as Nona, a reformed alcoholic who reconnects with her daughter Shay, played by Nicole Beharie. To put it blunt, Shay is angry. And given her life as a child of an alcoholic mom, she has every right to be. But when she is forced to return home, and finds her mother completely transformed and living a stable and peaceful life with a new daughter to boot, she doesn’t know what to do. Shay is stuck in the past, mad at the world and in a place where there is no forgiveness. The film shows her journey to reconciling her anger and learning the sacred art of forgiveness toward her mom.  Jill Scott, on the other hand, is a mother who can’t control if and when Shay’s forgiveness will come, who can’t undo her past and desperately wants to be believed in and respected in the present. It’s a moving piece indeed, just right for Black History Month.

The other thing I learned watching "Sins of the Mother" is that, quite frankly, being angry takes a lot of energy! Who needs the stress? Shay carries all sorts of anger and stress with her everyday like a designer handbag. Anger and stress are natural experiences. But the way we deal with anger and stress can make all the difference between healthy and unhealthy levels. A lot of that has to do with how we perceive or interpret what’s happening to us. In pregnancy, stress has been known to cause harmful hormones to secrete in your body—the last thing your baby needs. In life, prolonged stress has been linked to digestive orders, high blood pressure and heart disease. You really don’t need that.

If this sounds easier said than done, find an outlet. Yoga, meditation, breathing exercises, journaling quiet walks. In the movie, Jill Scott’s character finds a special place and a special way to deal with her fears and anxieties (let me know what you thought of it), and as I watched the film, I thought, I could definitely use one of those. As I watched the scenes of Nora going to her “place,” I thought about the many ways I’ve dealt with fears and anxieties in my life, and also the ways I could have handled them better. I thought about my own daughter. Though I try my best as a mother and thankfully have been blessed thus far to have not fallen into any addictions (does Big Love on HBO count?), I know that I will inevitably make mistakes as a parent. My prayer is that none of them will deeply scar my children (but I’ve started a therapy fund for them just in case) and that in the end they will forgive me. My mom often said of her own mother, “She did the best she could with what she had at the time.” I get that. That’s all any mom can do.


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We’ve teamed up with HOTmilk lingerie to offer you a free maternity camisole or bra and French panty set. I love HOTmilk because they are all about reminding moms-to-be that there is still a sexy woman underneath the loving mother , and that woman deserves a collection of pretty lingerie full of lace and ribbons with a heaping dose of attitude.


MyLifetime.com Clean Start Challenge

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Posted 02/23/10 1:01 pm EST | Pregnancy

I love clean starts. As a recent divorcee and a woman who left a successful career to launch my own business, I know a thing or two about starting over, reinventing yourself and going after the life you want for yourself. That's why I'm so excited to be a part of the myLifetime.com Clean Start Challenge 2010.


Oh Mama! The Bahamas Trip; 4 Days in Atlantis Heaven

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Posted 02/17/10 2:11 pm EST | Pregnancy

I wanted to blog often from the Bahamas. Promise. But I was having too much fun!
The JetAdventure media trip to the new Atlantis Kids Adventures was simply marvelous! It was sponsored by JetBlue, Atlantis and Lego. Obviously, the resort is beyond gorgeous. The kids and I had so much fun at the water park, I broke all of my hair rules.


Is Vanity Fair Sending Dangerous Messages to Little Black Girls? This Black Mom Worries…

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Posted 02/17/10 2:09 pm EST | Pregnancy

I really couldn't believe the recent spread in Vanity Fair heralding the next generation of Hollywood starlets.
It was bad enough that they couldn't (or didn't try) to find at least one person of color to include in their annual "New Hollywood" spread in the March issue. They've been taking a little heat for this ridiculous oversight.


Baby Blues or Post Partum Depression?

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